What does authentic look like to you? When I think about and hear the word authentic I make the assumption that something is real. The definition of authentic is worthy, made or done the same way as the original, or not false. In the society we live in it is hard being authentic. We are bombarded with messages that we are too fat, too thin, too dark, too light, and the list goes on and on.
What is the benefit of being authentic? In order to live your life to the fullest it is important that you live a life of authenticity. When we try to be what we are not we live a lie. God has made each one of us authentic. No two people are exactly alike not even twins.
Why should we strive for authenticity? Being authentic allows us to live the life that you were destine to live. When we live a life that is authentic 1) folks respect us more, and 2) you don’t have to pretend you are someone you are not. Living a life of authenticity cuts to the core of who you are, what you believe in, where you are at current in your situation, and what type of action plan you can realistically accomplish.
When I am coaching clients I encourage them to do several things to live in authenticity.
1. Accept who they are - I remind them of Psalm 139:14 I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works, my soul knows it very well. God has made you fearfully with great respect and wonderfully unique set apart.
2. Make other respect who they are – Set boundaries so that people respect who you are. Don’t try to please others but always try to please God. Psalm 34:1 I will bless the Lord at all times his praise shall continually be in my mouth. If you don’t accept who you are then others will not accept who you are.
3. Love who you are – Take the time to care for your body, soul, mind, and spirit. Take time out for you. Find out what moves you and really get you flowing. Discover your hidden passions, desires, wants, etc.
I challenge my readers this week to sit down and write out a list of attributes that makes you different from anyone else you know. Once you have completed this list send me an e-mail at meverett24@verizon.net so that I can guide you into living in authenticity. Please go to www. Newlifecoachinc.com and sign up for 6 free weeks of life coaching.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Gratitude
“Blessed are those that can give without remembering and receive without
forgetting.” — Author Unknown
In this first month of the new year it is imperative that we remember how blessed we are to have made it through a decade of living. This month’s topic is gratitude. Some may read this article and think I had a lousy year, I am glad 2009 is behind us. Trust me when I say anytime you are above the dirt it is a great day if you don’t believe this try missing one.
Today I am grateful for the cold air that blew across my feet on this morning after getting out of bed this means I have feet. Today I am grateful for the noise that my daughter made this morning when she arose for school it means I can ear. Today I am grateful for the bright light that shown in my window when I opened the blinds this morning it means I have sight. So often we take things for granted. I expect to have the use of my limbs, be able to see and hear when I awake each morning. This is a very arrogant attitude to have. It is through the grace of God that he has allowed the use of my physical body and kept my mind.
As I sat down to write this article, it dawned on me that my circumstance can change in the twinkling of an eye. I recognize that I should be content and grateful for where I am in my life right at this moment. I am where God would have me to be. The bible verse that speaks volumes about gratitude to me is Philippians 4:11-13 “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength."
As a life coach I am always guiding my clients through the transformation process. One of the action steps that I suggest is writing down a list of things daily for 30 days that they are thankful for. I challenge them to allow no negative thoughts to enter into the equation. After the 30 day period we will go over their journal entries and it is amazing to recognize the many things that they have to be thankful for. Instead of an attitude adjustment I recommend a gratitude adjustment.
If we adjust our gratitude our attitude will automatically be adjusted. I understand how difficult life is and gets sometimes but in all things there is always someone that is worse off than you.
I challenge all of my readers for the next 30 days to keep a gratitude journal. Daily write down things you have to be thankful for. At the end of the 30 days e-mail me on meverett24@verizon.net and let’s develop a plan that will allow you to incorporate your journal in your daily life for the rest of your life.
forgetting.” — Author Unknown
In this first month of the new year it is imperative that we remember how blessed we are to have made it through a decade of living. This month’s topic is gratitude. Some may read this article and think I had a lousy year, I am glad 2009 is behind us. Trust me when I say anytime you are above the dirt it is a great day if you don’t believe this try missing one.
Today I am grateful for the cold air that blew across my feet on this morning after getting out of bed this means I have feet. Today I am grateful for the noise that my daughter made this morning when she arose for school it means I can ear. Today I am grateful for the bright light that shown in my window when I opened the blinds this morning it means I have sight. So often we take things for granted. I expect to have the use of my limbs, be able to see and hear when I awake each morning. This is a very arrogant attitude to have. It is through the grace of God that he has allowed the use of my physical body and kept my mind.
As I sat down to write this article, it dawned on me that my circumstance can change in the twinkling of an eye. I recognize that I should be content and grateful for where I am in my life right at this moment. I am where God would have me to be. The bible verse that speaks volumes about gratitude to me is Philippians 4:11-13 “I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through Him who gives me strength."
As a life coach I am always guiding my clients through the transformation process. One of the action steps that I suggest is writing down a list of things daily for 30 days that they are thankful for. I challenge them to allow no negative thoughts to enter into the equation. After the 30 day period we will go over their journal entries and it is amazing to recognize the many things that they have to be thankful for. Instead of an attitude adjustment I recommend a gratitude adjustment.
If we adjust our gratitude our attitude will automatically be adjusted. I understand how difficult life is and gets sometimes but in all things there is always someone that is worse off than you.
I challenge all of my readers for the next 30 days to keep a gratitude journal. Daily write down things you have to be thankful for. At the end of the 30 days e-mail me on meverett24@verizon.net and let’s develop a plan that will allow you to incorporate your journal in your daily life for the rest of your life.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Love
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life” ( John 3:16 NIV).
In this Christmas season our topic this month is love. There are numerous feelings, words, emotions, ECT that come to mind when we think of love. It does not matter economic status, race, or gender, at the end of the day all we really want is love.
Love is so very important, that someone once asked Jesus which command was the most important. He answered, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind" (Matthew 22:36-38).
Love can fall into three categories EPA:
Eros – This is most categorized when someone states “I’m in love”. This love gives you that warm fuzzy feeling, strong sensual passion, and queasy stomach feeling. Eros is dependent upon situations and circumstances. As long as things are going great you are in love however when things go really wrong and mean and hurtful things are said these feelings can evaporate over time.
Philia – Derived from Philadelphia the city of brotherly love. This type of love is friendship, best friends, and mutual interest in some of the same things. This type of love is also fickle and can fade away depending upon the circumstance.
Agape – This type of love is unlike the previous two. With this love it is based on a commitment you make. No matter what you will love. Choosing to love your enemies when the despitefully use you, turning the other cheek when you don’t want to. God’s love was agape when he gave his only son so that we might have life.
In the coaching world I like to use the acronym EPA: Evaluate, Plan, and Act. By evaluating your life, having a plan, and acting on the results of the plan your life can be balanced. Where there is balance there is love. Relationships work not because of love, but because of the commitment. The same thing holds true when transforming your life. The transformation works not because of the action, but because of the commitment to that action.
Evaluation – The first thing that I have my client to do when coming to coaching is to evaluate where they are at present. We can’t get to where we need to be unless we recognize where we are at. We evaluate 8 different categories of life. This evaluation gives us a picture of what the client wants to work on while coaching.
Plan – Once we have found out where the client is we then develop plans to move forward along the journey. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. At this stage an accountability partner is key.
Action – No matter how much we evaluate and plan if not put to action it becomes null and void. Action is where the client starts to implement the plan. This stage will not work without commitment. This stage does not work solely because of action but it works because of the commitment to the action.
I encourage to come up with your own EPA. Once you have identified your EPA develop a way for this EPA to lead to a balanced life. Once your life is balanced you will love. The greatest thing you will ever learn is to love and be loved in return.
Action Step - Identify your own EPA. Once you have completed this task e-mail me on meverett24@verizon.net for your free introductory session. We will create a plan so that you can start living your life in and on purpose.
Have a safe and happy holiday.
In this Christmas season our topic this month is love. There are numerous feelings, words, emotions, ECT that come to mind when we think of love. It does not matter economic status, race, or gender, at the end of the day all we really want is love.
Love is so very important, that someone once asked Jesus which command was the most important. He answered, "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind" (Matthew 22:36-38).
Love can fall into three categories EPA:
Eros – This is most categorized when someone states “I’m in love”. This love gives you that warm fuzzy feeling, strong sensual passion, and queasy stomach feeling. Eros is dependent upon situations and circumstances. As long as things are going great you are in love however when things go really wrong and mean and hurtful things are said these feelings can evaporate over time.
Philia – Derived from Philadelphia the city of brotherly love. This type of love is friendship, best friends, and mutual interest in some of the same things. This type of love is also fickle and can fade away depending upon the circumstance.
Agape – This type of love is unlike the previous two. With this love it is based on a commitment you make. No matter what you will love. Choosing to love your enemies when the despitefully use you, turning the other cheek when you don’t want to. God’s love was agape when he gave his only son so that we might have life.
In the coaching world I like to use the acronym EPA: Evaluate, Plan, and Act. By evaluating your life, having a plan, and acting on the results of the plan your life can be balanced. Where there is balance there is love. Relationships work not because of love, but because of the commitment. The same thing holds true when transforming your life. The transformation works not because of the action, but because of the commitment to that action.
Evaluation – The first thing that I have my client to do when coming to coaching is to evaluate where they are at present. We can’t get to where we need to be unless we recognize where we are at. We evaluate 8 different categories of life. This evaluation gives us a picture of what the client wants to work on while coaching.
Plan – Once we have found out where the client is we then develop plans to move forward along the journey. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. At this stage an accountability partner is key.
Action – No matter how much we evaluate and plan if not put to action it becomes null and void. Action is where the client starts to implement the plan. This stage will not work without commitment. This stage does not work solely because of action but it works because of the commitment to the action.
I encourage to come up with your own EPA. Once you have identified your EPA develop a way for this EPA to lead to a balanced life. Once your life is balanced you will love. The greatest thing you will ever learn is to love and be loved in return.
Action Step - Identify your own EPA. Once you have completed this task e-mail me on meverett24@verizon.net for your free introductory session. We will create a plan so that you can start living your life in and on purpose.
Have a safe and happy holiday.
Thursday, November 12, 2009
Reaping and Sowing
In this season of Thanksgiving, I sat down earlier in the week to reflect on the things that I had to be thankful for. What I recognized was that I did not have enough paper to express how good God has been to me. I have been blessed with awesome family and friends. God has always stationed the right people in my life and continues to do so.
I wrote an article a couple of weeks ago titled “The Hand You Were Dealt” and I must say I have been dealt a really good hand. My life has certainly not been without struggles, but even through the struggles I would not want another deal. I am especially thankful for my parents. I was adopted at 3 months old and God gave me the best option there was. I don’t know my biological parents but I thank them for giving me the best opportunity. It is not where you start the race it is where you finish.
I was raised in a Christian home reared by loving and caring parents. Even my extended family is really cool. As God has blessed me with a family, I only hope that I am half the wife and mother that my mother has been to my father and me. I have been married to a wonderful man for the past 17 years, and those that really know me wonder why he has been married to me for so long. Well someone has to do it. We have a beautiful daughter that was 1lb 2oz at birth and now is a healthy 13 year old. Any of you with teens no nothing else needs to be said about this age. She is ADHD with the dominant trait being hyperactivity. In our family God has blessed her with this trait as a survival mechanism. My husband and I both have really strong personalities and I am bouncing off the walls all over the place so it works really well in our family. As a matter of fact, I maybe ADHD myself.
I have been blessed with great careers and really good bosses and co-workers, all of which have prepared me for my life as a Christian Life Coach. In your spare time I want you to reflect on what has your whole life prepared you for? When you take an honest assessment you will be surprised of the results. OK enough about my great life. Did I mention I have had struggles? Just wanted to make sure it has not always been peaches and cream but I would not trade this hand for the world.
When I think about Reaping and Sowing which is our theme for this month it speaks perfectly to the coach/client relationship. The coach is always sowing (techniques, strategies, action plans, etc) into the client’s life. The client in return reaps the benefits (transformation, accomplishments, results etc). When the coaching relationship is done properly your client’s lives as well as your life will never be the same. Transformation will occur that changes their lives for the rest of their lives.
The point is this: "whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully”. (2 Corinthians 9:6 ESV).
I will share a real life coaching scenario with you. The name has been changed to protect the innocent.
Morgan: Hello Coach Marsha
Marsha: Hello Morgan how are you? Before we get started I’d like to open us in prayer.
Morgan: Great
Marsha: What has brought you to coaching?
Morgan: Well I am at my wits end. I have no clear direction in my life about anything. I hate my job, I have no savings, my family life is a wreck, and nothing in my life thus far has gone according to my plans. I have absolutely no direction. This is my last ditch effort for things to work out.
Marsha: Well Morgan let me thank you for caring enough about your life that you are willing to make some changes. Believe it or not your situation is not unique. Most people seeking coaching are in your same shoes. Morgan you have to put first things first. If you were to take a trip you would not blindly just start traveling. You would map out your course. You have to do the same thing with your life. Secondly, it is not about what you have planned for your life it is what the creator has planned for your life. Galatians 1:15 But when it pleased God, who separated me from my mothers’ womb and called me through His grace (NKJV).
Morgan: That’s just it I have no idea which direction to head in or what he has called me to do.
Marsha: Let’s start off by defining what is the most important problem you want to solve?
Morgan: What is my purpose?
Marsha: Well Morgan the first thing that I recommend is that you complete a Spiritual Gifts Assessment. The reason for doing this is, until you clearly understand what God has purposed you to do you are not living on purpose. Each one of us has been given special talents and abilities that are specifically designed for us. Once you realize what your gifts are we will built a plan around those gifts. These gifts will answer and explain exactly what role in your life you should be playing. Does this make sense Morgan?
Morgan: It makes perfect sense. Once I identify what my gifts are I can then plan my actions/goals around those gifts correct?
Marsha: Correct for example, if one of your gifts is leadership then the roles you seek should be leadership roles in your career, church, other organizations etc). I am also going to encourage you to complete The Wheel of Life. This Wheel of Life allows you to self-assess in eight key areas. This Wheel will help you determine which areas to work on. Morgan we have 5 more minutes left is there anything else you would like to discuss today before we close our session?
Morgan: No I just feel a whole lot better about mapping things out. Just that one piece of information explaining the Spiritual Gifts Assessment has given me a new look on things. I am going to enjoy coaching with you.
Marsha: Great let’s go ahead and lock into our session for next week. This is the number and time that you will call. What would be a good action step for this week Morgan?
Morgan: To complete the Spiritual Gifts Assessment and The Wheel of Life.
Marsha: Great now on a scale of 1-10 how likely are you to complete both? Also I always give scripture for the week to ponder. The scripture for this week is Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (NIV).
Morgan: 10 I will complete the steps and read the recommended scripture.
Marsha: Ok then that is your action step for this week is to complete Spiritual Gifts Assessment and The Wheel of Life. You will also read Jeremiah 29:11. It has been a pleasure speaking with you on today. Let’s close in prayer.
This is a typical session that shows the Reaping and Sowing principal.
Action Step - Sit down with a sheet of paper and divide the paper into half. List Reaping on one side and Sowing on the other. Identify where you see the principal.
I am happy to guide you along your journey. Hope this article has been informational and peaks your interest to want more. Please contact me on meverett24@verizon.net so that we can set up an introductory session.
I wrote an article a couple of weeks ago titled “The Hand You Were Dealt” and I must say I have been dealt a really good hand. My life has certainly not been without struggles, but even through the struggles I would not want another deal. I am especially thankful for my parents. I was adopted at 3 months old and God gave me the best option there was. I don’t know my biological parents but I thank them for giving me the best opportunity. It is not where you start the race it is where you finish.
I was raised in a Christian home reared by loving and caring parents. Even my extended family is really cool. As God has blessed me with a family, I only hope that I am half the wife and mother that my mother has been to my father and me. I have been married to a wonderful man for the past 17 years, and those that really know me wonder why he has been married to me for so long. Well someone has to do it. We have a beautiful daughter that was 1lb 2oz at birth and now is a healthy 13 year old. Any of you with teens no nothing else needs to be said about this age. She is ADHD with the dominant trait being hyperactivity. In our family God has blessed her with this trait as a survival mechanism. My husband and I both have really strong personalities and I am bouncing off the walls all over the place so it works really well in our family. As a matter of fact, I maybe ADHD myself.
I have been blessed with great careers and really good bosses and co-workers, all of which have prepared me for my life as a Christian Life Coach. In your spare time I want you to reflect on what has your whole life prepared you for? When you take an honest assessment you will be surprised of the results. OK enough about my great life. Did I mention I have had struggles? Just wanted to make sure it has not always been peaches and cream but I would not trade this hand for the world.
When I think about Reaping and Sowing which is our theme for this month it speaks perfectly to the coach/client relationship. The coach is always sowing (techniques, strategies, action plans, etc) into the client’s life. The client in return reaps the benefits (transformation, accomplishments, results etc). When the coaching relationship is done properly your client’s lives as well as your life will never be the same. Transformation will occur that changes their lives for the rest of their lives.
The point is this: "whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully”. (2 Corinthians 9:6 ESV).
I will share a real life coaching scenario with you. The name has been changed to protect the innocent.
Morgan: Hello Coach Marsha
Marsha: Hello Morgan how are you? Before we get started I’d like to open us in prayer.
Morgan: Great
Marsha: What has brought you to coaching?
Morgan: Well I am at my wits end. I have no clear direction in my life about anything. I hate my job, I have no savings, my family life is a wreck, and nothing in my life thus far has gone according to my plans. I have absolutely no direction. This is my last ditch effort for things to work out.
Marsha: Well Morgan let me thank you for caring enough about your life that you are willing to make some changes. Believe it or not your situation is not unique. Most people seeking coaching are in your same shoes. Morgan you have to put first things first. If you were to take a trip you would not blindly just start traveling. You would map out your course. You have to do the same thing with your life. Secondly, it is not about what you have planned for your life it is what the creator has planned for your life. Galatians 1:15 But when it pleased God, who separated me from my mothers’ womb and called me through His grace (NKJV).
Morgan: That’s just it I have no idea which direction to head in or what he has called me to do.
Marsha: Let’s start off by defining what is the most important problem you want to solve?
Morgan: What is my purpose?
Marsha: Well Morgan the first thing that I recommend is that you complete a Spiritual Gifts Assessment. The reason for doing this is, until you clearly understand what God has purposed you to do you are not living on purpose. Each one of us has been given special talents and abilities that are specifically designed for us. Once you realize what your gifts are we will built a plan around those gifts. These gifts will answer and explain exactly what role in your life you should be playing. Does this make sense Morgan?
Morgan: It makes perfect sense. Once I identify what my gifts are I can then plan my actions/goals around those gifts correct?
Marsha: Correct for example, if one of your gifts is leadership then the roles you seek should be leadership roles in your career, church, other organizations etc). I am also going to encourage you to complete The Wheel of Life. This Wheel of Life allows you to self-assess in eight key areas. This Wheel will help you determine which areas to work on. Morgan we have 5 more minutes left is there anything else you would like to discuss today before we close our session?
Morgan: No I just feel a whole lot better about mapping things out. Just that one piece of information explaining the Spiritual Gifts Assessment has given me a new look on things. I am going to enjoy coaching with you.
Marsha: Great let’s go ahead and lock into our session for next week. This is the number and time that you will call. What would be a good action step for this week Morgan?
Morgan: To complete the Spiritual Gifts Assessment and The Wheel of Life.
Marsha: Great now on a scale of 1-10 how likely are you to complete both? Also I always give scripture for the week to ponder. The scripture for this week is Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (NIV).
Morgan: 10 I will complete the steps and read the recommended scripture.
Marsha: Ok then that is your action step for this week is to complete Spiritual Gifts Assessment and The Wheel of Life. You will also read Jeremiah 29:11. It has been a pleasure speaking with you on today. Let’s close in prayer.
This is a typical session that shows the Reaping and Sowing principal.
Action Step - Sit down with a sheet of paper and divide the paper into half. List Reaping on one side and Sowing on the other. Identify where you see the principal.
I am happy to guide you along your journey. Hope this article has been informational and peaks your interest to want more. Please contact me on meverett24@verizon.net so that we can set up an introductory session.
Monday, November 9, 2009
And You Thought Dragons Didn’t Exist!!!!
While sitting at my dining room table recently, I made the statement and you thought dragons didn’t exist. My daughter and her girlfriend immediately commented. Dragons don’t exist, they are just fictional animals. I laughed and said but they do. Both of them said really? I said yes really. It was really fun explaining my definition of dragons to them.
According to Webster’s Dictionary dragons are defined as 1) a huge serpent or snake, 2) a mythical monster generally represented as a huge, winged reptile with crested head and enormous claws and teeth, and often spouting fire, 3) a fierce violent person, and 4) Satan. These are just a few of those listed.
When I think of dragons, I think of a mythical huge, winged reptile with crested head, and enormous claws and teeth spouting fire. They are fictitious, not real, only found in tales. As I thought long and hard about this, I recognized that dragons come in many forms.
Dragons are (fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, substance abuse, pride, envy, jealously, low self-esteem, etc) anything that is negative in your life can be a dragon. The good news is that you have the ability, to capture the dragon. How does one capture a dragon? First, know that your life has value and significance. Release past negative experiences and focus on a positive future. Create goals and plans for your live. Capturing the dragon is the courage to change the things that we can.
God can slay the dragon. We are to change those things that we can, and let God handle the rest. God established your value and significance when he died on the cross for your sins. We must recognize that we have to be totally dependent upon God to slay our dragons.
He put on righteousness as a breastplate, and a helmet of salvation on his head; he put on garments of vengeance for clothing, and wrapped himself in zeal as a cloak (Isaiah 59:17 ESV). This is God’s protection.
What dragons exist in your life? Write those dragons down and let’s create a plan to capture them. Once captured, we will allow God to completely slay them.
Action Step – For this week refuse to allow negative thoughts to creep into your mind. Keep a notebook with you and divide a page in half. Each time you have a negative thought write it down on one side. On the other side of the paper replace it with a positive thought.
E-Mail me for a free introductory session so that we can discuss your dragons and your negative thoughts. I’d like to assist you with creating a plan so that you can eliminate your dragons.
According to Webster’s Dictionary dragons are defined as 1) a huge serpent or snake, 2) a mythical monster generally represented as a huge, winged reptile with crested head and enormous claws and teeth, and often spouting fire, 3) a fierce violent person, and 4) Satan. These are just a few of those listed.
When I think of dragons, I think of a mythical huge, winged reptile with crested head, and enormous claws and teeth spouting fire. They are fictitious, not real, only found in tales. As I thought long and hard about this, I recognized that dragons come in many forms.
Dragons are (fear, anxiety, depression, guilt, substance abuse, pride, envy, jealously, low self-esteem, etc) anything that is negative in your life can be a dragon. The good news is that you have the ability, to capture the dragon. How does one capture a dragon? First, know that your life has value and significance. Release past negative experiences and focus on a positive future. Create goals and plans for your live. Capturing the dragon is the courage to change the things that we can.
God can slay the dragon. We are to change those things that we can, and let God handle the rest. God established your value and significance when he died on the cross for your sins. We must recognize that we have to be totally dependent upon God to slay our dragons.
He put on righteousness as a breastplate, and a helmet of salvation on his head; he put on garments of vengeance for clothing, and wrapped himself in zeal as a cloak (Isaiah 59:17 ESV). This is God’s protection.
What dragons exist in your life? Write those dragons down and let’s create a plan to capture them. Once captured, we will allow God to completely slay them.
Action Step – For this week refuse to allow negative thoughts to creep into your mind. Keep a notebook with you and divide a page in half. Each time you have a negative thought write it down on one side. On the other side of the paper replace it with a positive thought.
E-Mail me for a free introductory session so that we can discuss your dragons and your negative thoughts. I’d like to assist you with creating a plan so that you can eliminate your dragons.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
ACCOUNTABILITY
In 2009 accountability is a joke. Companies that have benefited from bailouts are but not limited to, Bank Of America Corp, American International Group Inc (AIG), Citigroup Inc, and General Motors just to name a few. How can we expect to teach our children about responsibility, when all the major institutions around them are receiving bailout money for not being responsible.
When there is no oversight or accountability, irresponsibility is your final result. When I make bad business decisions the federal government does not come to my rescue. Not only were these companies bailed out, they continued to pay their top executives salaries and bonuses. Help me out here how does one get a bonus when you have mismanaged your funds?
The most significant part of the coaching relationship is accountability. If my client and I don’t have a mutual agreement for being accountable to each other, the relationship does not work. I have read numerous books on coaching were entire chapters are dedicated to accountability.
Anytime you are changing a habit accountability has to be part of that change. When clients are held accountable they buy into the process therefore, increasing the likelihood of accomplishing their goals.
In the larger picture God holds us accountable. Although he forgives us of our sins we are still going to be held accountable. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil (2 Corinthians 5:10 ESV).
The next time someone does not hold their end of the deal up, hold them accountable. It does not mean that you don’t’ forgive them for not following through, forgiveness has nothing to do with accountability.
If you are seeking to make some positive changes in your life contact me so that I can become your accountability partner. I can be reached on marsha@gospel360online.com. I look forward to offering you a free introductory session.
When there is no oversight or accountability, irresponsibility is your final result. When I make bad business decisions the federal government does not come to my rescue. Not only were these companies bailed out, they continued to pay their top executives salaries and bonuses. Help me out here how does one get a bonus when you have mismanaged your funds?
The most significant part of the coaching relationship is accountability. If my client and I don’t have a mutual agreement for being accountable to each other, the relationship does not work. I have read numerous books on coaching were entire chapters are dedicated to accountability.
Anytime you are changing a habit accountability has to be part of that change. When clients are held accountable they buy into the process therefore, increasing the likelihood of accomplishing their goals.
In the larger picture God holds us accountable. Although he forgives us of our sins we are still going to be held accountable. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil (2 Corinthians 5:10 ESV).
The next time someone does not hold their end of the deal up, hold them accountable. It does not mean that you don’t’ forgive them for not following through, forgiveness has nothing to do with accountability.
If you are seeking to make some positive changes in your life contact me so that I can become your accountability partner. I can be reached on marsha@gospel360online.com. I look forward to offering you a free introductory session.
Monday, October 26, 2009
Vision Boarding
A wonderful tool that I use with my clients is vision boarding and mind mapping. By encouraging my clients to do a vision board it not only brings their goals to reality it also serves as a tool for accountability.
What is a vision board? A vision board is a collage of motivational quotes, pictures, magazine clippings, articles, etc anything visual you can think of to bring your goals to reality.
Not only do I encourage my clients to do them I do them as well. The first thing that I do prior to starting my board is getting in a quite space so that I am able to focus. I start out by identifying a vision statement for example. I will start an exercise program a few times per week in order to lose weight and maintain a healthy body weight.
Once I have created my vision statement I then start to bring it all together. I use several steps to create this board.
1. Put First Things First – Map out exactly what is going to go on the board (pictures, quotes, timelines, etc).
2. Begin With The End In Mind – Decide how I want the goal to manifest itself in the end (themes, stories).
3. Whatever you decide to use (poster board, cork board, journal) glue your pictures, quotes, themes, timelines, etc on the board. This is where you become very creative through writing, painting, coloring, whatever feels good to you. Themes can be Spiritual, Health/Wellness, Career, Recreational etc.
4. Optional put a picture of you in the middle of the board.
5. Make sure it is where you can see it daily.
“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it”. (Habakkuk 2:3 ESV).
Action Step: Think of a goal you would like to accomplish and start gathering the necessary materials needed to get a board done. Call me for a free introductory session so that you can start your journey to fulfilling your vision. I can be reached on meverett24@verizon.net.
What is a vision board? A vision board is a collage of motivational quotes, pictures, magazine clippings, articles, etc anything visual you can think of to bring your goals to reality.
Not only do I encourage my clients to do them I do them as well. The first thing that I do prior to starting my board is getting in a quite space so that I am able to focus. I start out by identifying a vision statement for example. I will start an exercise program a few times per week in order to lose weight and maintain a healthy body weight.
Once I have created my vision statement I then start to bring it all together. I use several steps to create this board.
1. Put First Things First – Map out exactly what is going to go on the board (pictures, quotes, timelines, etc).
2. Begin With The End In Mind – Decide how I want the goal to manifest itself in the end (themes, stories).
3. Whatever you decide to use (poster board, cork board, journal) glue your pictures, quotes, themes, timelines, etc on the board. This is where you become very creative through writing, painting, coloring, whatever feels good to you. Themes can be Spiritual, Health/Wellness, Career, Recreational etc.
4. Optional put a picture of you in the middle of the board.
5. Make sure it is where you can see it daily.
“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it”. (Habakkuk 2:3 ESV).
Action Step: Think of a goal you would like to accomplish and start gathering the necessary materials needed to get a board done. Call me for a free introductory session so that you can start your journey to fulfilling your vision. I can be reached on meverett24@verizon.net.
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